The Dangling Conversation

It’s a still life water color, Of a now late afternoon,
As the sun shines through the curtained lace And shadows wash the room.
And we sit and drink our coffee Couched in our indifference,
Like shells upon the shore You can hear the ocean roar
In the dangling conversation And the superficial sighs,
The borders of our lives.

And you read your Emily Dickinson, And I my Robert Frost,
And we note our place with bookmarkers That measure what we’ve lost.
Like a poem poorly written We are verses out of rhythm,
Couplets out of rhyme, In syncopated time
Lost in the dangling conversation And the superficial sighs,
Are the borders of our lives.

Yes, we speak of things that matter, With words that must be said,
“Can analysis be worthwhile?” “Is the theater really dead?”
And how the room is softly faded And I only kiss your shadow,
I cannot feel your hand, You’re a stranger now unto me
Lost in the dangling conversation. And the superficial sighs,
In the borders of our lives.

One day I read a posting about the irony between digital era and conversation. I was interested. So I left a comment that quote a song titled “The Dangling Conversation” and I said “we replace talk with type, don’t we ?”. I don’t know if the blogger likes it or not, approve my comment or not. Or maybe my comment got lost on its way. But it inspires me to make this posting.

First,  I like to say sorry to the blogger who I left this comment on his / her posting.  If you don’t like my comment or my comment annoyed you or even bothered your blog. But I want you to know that  I am really not a spammer.

As we already know that we are living in digital world. None of every life fields that doesn’t use computer. The consequence of it is we are more often typing than speaking or talking. If in the olden days we speak through the phone to someone if we separate in a long distance, now we can text someone with our cellphone or computer. Thanks to technology.

In work, a subordinate can communicate with superiors via text. A subordinate doesn’t need to speak to his superiors face to face in some situations.

Because of technology too, we can make a lot of friends from all around the world without going travelling physically with digitally social networks. We just  need to choose it. The one that we prefer better than the others. If we confuse, we can be the member of several social networks at once. There’ s no rules against it.

Yes, there’s many social networks like Facebook, Twitter, Skype, Myspace. But whether they make us more social in this digital era ? I have several friends on a social network, but several times I tried to chat with them, they don’t reply my chat. Finally, I have tendency  not to begin a chat. Unless they chat me first. Not only that, they rarely or never leave any comments on my status or my pictures.

Isn’t it ironic ? The name of software is social network, but it seems they don’t  like to comment or to chat with their friends. And it’s more ironic, because some of them asked me first to be their friends by sent me their friendship requests. In this case, I wasn’t the one who sent them my friendship request and asked them to be my friend.

If the case is the other way around. I was the one who sent them my friendship request and asked them to be my friend, it’s still can be  understood if they never want to chat me or comment on my status or my pictures. Maybe because they add me as their friends with carelessly.

Another funny thing about this is I have a friend who never comment on my pictures or status, but he asked me to comment on his pictures.

One thing that annoyed me is if I have a friend request, but my candidate friend doesn’t have any self-portrait. Not only that, the information about him / her is also not enough available. I usually refuse this kind of friendship request. Just like the type of this software that is social network, don’t we mean to be friends ? But unfortunately you don’t provide me enough about your information and your face.

And finally, maybe the saddest thing of this is one of my  friends  even can look like an autistic person if he is already in front of the computer. Whatever I say or do seems doesn’t attract him at all anymore. Louder sounds around him  can’t seem to disturb him. If the phone near him rings, he tends to ignore it.  Even if I ask him, I have to repeat what I say  to get his attention. After this,  then he even still answers it with a short answer and tendency to answer with carelessly.

The computer with its internet seems to hypnotize him. Since that, we rarely talk  to each other. We seem so preoccupied and busy with our own world and our own business. We like big kids with our own toys. For this, should I say thank you to technology too ?

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